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Seize the
Grace!
Lenten lessons from Matt Talbot,
the holy alcoholic
By: Bob
French
The
Word Among Us: Lent 2015 issue
Sometimes it seems like changing bad habits takes
forever. But is that an illusion? Is change fast, or is it slow?
I think most of us would be inclined to say that change comes
slowly, especially when it involves deeply entrenched patterns of behavior. We
think of long hours at the gym to lose weight or months of struggle to overcome
an addiction like smoking. Change feels like a long, grueling process, which is
why so many of us fail to even attempt it. Except, perhaps, when we make
resolutions for Lent or the New Year.
But consider, for a moment, the “I do” at the altar, the cry of
a newborn, or the words “You are a priest forever.” In a split second, lives are
changed. Never again can the couple not have been married, the woman not have
been a mother, or the man not have been a priest. Everything is different from
that point forward. Or think of Confession: our sins are erased in much less
time than it takes to commit them!
In one sense, then, change is very fast, even instantaneous. But
living it out? Now that’s a different story. So the question is: once we receive
the grace to get serious about overcoming some compulsion, addiction, or bad
habit, how can we keep acting on this decision over the long haul? While there
are no easy answers, it can help to look at people who have experienced this
“fast change, slow change” dynamic. One exceptional model is Matthew Talbot, the
Irish workman whom Pope Paul VI declared venerable in 1975.
Seize the Grace! Born in Dublin in 1856, Matt Talbot was an
alcoholic. Not a nice “society drinker,” but a down-and-out drunk from a family
of heavy drinkers. The Talbots were poor, and Matt attended school for only a
year before leaving at age twelve to work in a wine shop. He began to drink
there, and before long was a full-blown alcoholic.
To support his habit, he went on to work in a warehouse and a
construction company. All of his wages he spent in the pubs, often with his
father and brothers. He was known to pawn his clothes and boots to get money for
drink; once he even stole a fiddle from a blind street musician.
For sixteen years, Matt lived only for booze, careening from
work to pub and back again, falling further and further into the grip of
addiction. Then one day, when he was broke and none of his buddies would buy him
a drink, Matt suddenly realized what a mess he was making of his life. In a
grace-filled flash, he determined to “take the pledge” to stop drinking for
three months. He went home and told his mother, who had been praying for his
conversion but advised him not to make the promise unless he truly intended to
change. “God give you the strength to keep the pledge,” she said, as Matt went
off to seek his first Confession in many years.
Decide and Tell. Matt’s mom was on to something: the first key
to changing is to decide. Not to just think about it, but to seize and act on
the grace to make a decision. Often we “want to want” to change, but when it
comes right down to it, we aren’t all that keen on actually making an
irrevocable decision to change. However, that’s where it all starts. And as with
Matt, it can happen in an instant.
When we are brutally honest with ourselves, we know when we have
really decided and when we are just playing games. A real decision comes from
deep within the soul; we know for certain that we have crossed a line, and
there’s no turning back. It’s like Jesus, when he “resolutely determined to
journey to Jerusalem” (Luke 9:51). When Matt Talbot took the pledge, there was
no looking back.
But that’s just the beginning. Along with making a decision,
it’s essential to tell someone about it. Life coaches call this
“accountability.” A decision made in private and kept secret is all too easy to
dismiss. In Matt’s case, his mother was a witness and reminder of his decision
to give up drinking. When we change, we too must let someone know. After all,
that’s one reason weddings and ordinations are public events: everyone attending
is a witness to the change.
It is also one of the reasons that we confess to a priest. As
part of the sacrament, we say that we resolve to sin no more. The priest is
witness to our decision to change, and the penance he gives us is our reminder
that we have made that decision before God.
Cultivate Self-Discipline. While Matt Talbot’s instantaneous
decision set him on a course of holiness, it took the rest of his life to live
out the change. He did it by learning self-discipline, by living out his
resolution over and over, day by day. This is the slow part of change—the part
that isn’t as much fun.
“Never look down on a man who cannot give up the drink. It is
easier to get out of hell!” Matt once wrote his sister. But he kept at it. After
three months, he extended his pledge to six months. Eventually, with the help of
a priest friend, his sobriety became lifelong.
Matt did more than just resist the urge to drink. Some of his
additional self-discipline came in the form of physical mortification: he slept
on a plank, ate very little, and even wore hidden chains around his waist, arm
and leg (a physical discipline recommended by his spiritual advisor). He also
maintained a cheerful attitude, gave most of his money to the poor, and put in a
honest day’s labor for his wages.
Although some of Matt’s ascetical practices were extreme, most
of us would also benefit from cultivating self-discipline. We too can learn to
control our attitude, work diligently at our occupations, and put the needs of
others before our own wants.
“Jesus, Mercy!” So is the “fast” part of change mostly God’s
work, and the “slow” part mostly a matter of our own striving? Not at all! No
amount of resolve and discipline can guarantee success. This is another lesson
from Matt Talbot’s life: the whole process of changing requires the grace of
God. Right away, Matt realized that he couldn’t overcome his addiction on his
own; he had to surrender to God and allow the Holy Spirit to provide the
strength he lacked.
The morning after he took the pledge, fearful and anxious about
not being able to keep it, Matt went to Mass and received Communion. He did this
every day for the rest of his life. He was on his way to Mass, in fact, when he
died of heart failure on June 7, 1925.
Especially in his first three months of sobriety, Matt learned
to throw himself on God’s mercy. One day, plagued by an inner voice that kept
saying, “It’s no use. You’ll never stop drinking,” he knelt with outstretched
arms on the cathedral steps and prayed, “Jesus, mercy! Mary, help!” Another
time, after going into a pub and almost ordering a drink, Matt spent the rest of
the day in church, praying for help against temptation; he also decided never to
carry money again.
If we’re making a change, we too can draw strength from frequent
reception of the Eucharist and Confession. We can turn to the Lord in prayer.
Devotions like the rosary are a great aid, as is spiritual reading—beginning
with the Bible. Spending even ten minutes a day reading something uplifting can
help us both rely on God and grow in resolve to face the challenges that come
with living out real change.
Seek the Change that Matters. To his friends and even his
family, Matt Talbot looked like an ordinary, hard-working man with a strong
religious bent. On the inside, though, he was a warrior waging a spiritual
battle that lasted forty years and made him a hero of the faith. His story shows
us that the deepest and longest-lasting changes aren’t the showy, splashy
announcements. They are the inner decisions that may only take a second to make
but require a lifetime to live out.
This Lent, let’s ask the Holy Spirit for his guidance and power
to help us address the areas in our own lives that need changing for the good.
And as we do, let’s remember Venerable Matt Talbot, who stopped drinking in a
moment—and spent the rest of his life making good on that change.